All or Nothing

Do you find that when you start something that you go ‘all in’? Does it needs to ‘be perfect’. Then when things don't go to plan, or are inconsistent, you may want to be give up… then start again months down the track. You may believe you’re a failure, and your actions confirm that belief to you. Soon you no longer trust yourself, 'proving yourself right’ in a repeating pattern.

Part of this is due to the rigid rules that people put on themselves when they start: ‘I am quitting chocolate for a month’, ‘I am having no junk food for the next 3 months’. Then after small deviation from the rule: well I've ruined it now… may as well give up. Told you I can't stick to it. What's the point?

They may have no plan for navigating through uncertain times out of their control. When life happens and they’re unprepared, there are no choices that will suit their needs at the time. They may think: fuck it, I'm just going to eat whatever I want, and start again Monday.

So how can we navigate through this?

In times out of your control, ask yourself: what can I do next? What next choice can I make, that will be better and aligned with my goals?

Remember the goal is not ‘perfection’, only consistency. In the grand scheme of things, a couple days is nothing compared to a couple months.

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